see you in a week, tumblr!
Remember that gender is about more than presentation. If your friend came out as trans but she might still dress what you see as “boyish,” don’t talk about that like it’s a big deal (and don’t call it “boyish”). I’ve learned over the years that I feel most comfortable with my hair short, plaid flannel shirts and clothes that hide my chest and my curves, I love my longboard and I like speaking in a lower voice. But I know hat I am still a woman because after long reflections having learned so much about gender I’ve realized that yes, I do identify with this. For a lot of people it’s different. A trans guy might like to shave his legs. A trans girl may love dressing like Kurt Cobain. We need to stop labelling these choices as “masculine” and “feminine.” Understand that presentation is not identity.
Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destinies of others. You must either learn to carry the Universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.
i don’t care about straight girls who are afraid to cut their hair short in case they get called lesbians, i care about the fact that lesbians are being used as fucking insults
I’m really proud of myself. It’s been 4 months since we spoke and I came across your picture today. As much as i smiled, and thought about texting you I didn’t. You looked happy. And I felt happy. And I remembered that we aren’t the same people anymore and we can’t go back to being them. I want something else now.